3 Steps For Channeling Your Inner Assertive HBIC and Getting Exactly What You Want
Productive assertiveness helps to quell resentment, and it also has a domino effect in strengthening relationships and harnessing inner confidence. “You’re trying to say, ‘I need to voice my complaint in a way that this person can actually receive it and make a change from it,’” says therapist Kerrie Thompson Mohr, LCSW. Basically, remove your verbal crutch of “they just doesn’t understand” from your vocabulary.
And if this doesn’t come easily to you, it’s not game over. Mohr says assertiveness isn’t an innate feature of someone’s character, and that understanding that truth is key for growth. Rather, it’s a skill anyone and everyone can learn, hone, and improve improve upon. Okay, so that’s the good news, but how do you get to the assertive promised land?